The Sassy Missus

Nine Davids: And some are very, very bad.
 (taken from the post: with permission. Click the link to read the whole post)

One Fish, Two Fish, Red Fish, Blue Fish...

"Who is the bad fish in this picture?"

...I asked my husband, with a pit in my stomach, as I read to our 13-month old son.


He raised an eyebrow and said, "Uh, the red one, obviously."


I always thought it was the yellow one.


My whole childhood, in the thousands of times I've read Dr. Suess's wonderful book "One Fish Two Fish", I thought the bad fish on this page were the little yellow and blue fish. The red fish, in my child's eyes, was their father. The yellow fish was in trouble and had been "very very bad." The little blue fish was smug because he'd gotten away with it and his sibling was taking the blame. The red father fish was spanking the little yellow fish.


I saw this page last night through adult eyes and decided, beyond any shadow of a doubt, that our home will never be a spanking home.

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 I came across this while going through the list of blogs I follow (weeding through them, eliminating dead ones or ones I'm not interested anymore)  and the post made me think.
I have read this book multiple times and it never occurred to me that people would think the yellow one was the bad fish.
I showed HUbby the picture and asked him who was bad, he said the red one. #1 & Baby Blue were in the room too, so i asked them. They both said the red one. When i asked why, #1 said "Red is always evil" (thank you video games *sigh*) and thenBaby Blue (4)  came out with "no, he's bad because he's hitting."

Personally I always thought the red fish was pushing the yellow one over the blue one.

I found this blog post randomly as i was checking into facebook today.
Cry it out (CIO): 10 reasons why it is not for us | PhD in Parenting

1. CIO can cause harmful changes to babies’ brains
2. CIO can result in decreased intellectual, emotional and social development
3. CIO can result in a detached baby
4. CIO is harmful to the parent-child relationship
5. CIO can make children insecure
6. CIO often doesn’t work at all
7. Even if CIO does “work”, parents often have to do it over and over again
8. CIO is disrespectful of my child’s needs
9. Deep sleep from CIO is often a result of trauma
10. Our world needs more love

Read the original post on the blog, along with the details that go with each reason (to long to post here, plus i'm sure the blogger would rather you read the post on their blog)


I am a firm believer in non-cio. I don't understand this need parents today have with having their child un-attach from them at an early age. It just isn't natural to not respond to a child's needs. Babies cry for a reason, even if that reason is just that they need you. Go to them. Pick them up. Respond to them.
Responding to a baby only fosters security. Security in knowing someone will be there for them when they need it. I don't think that is a bad lesson to teach your child, do you?
Security makes for children who know they can do things, they grow to become independent. They grow to become secure adults.
It all starts with something as simple as you responding to their cries and needs.

Sure, if you let them cry long enough they will eventually stop.
If i cried out for someone to come help me and no one came, eventually i would give up to, wouldn't you?

What Happens When You Tattoo “Daddy’s Boy” on Your 3-Year-Old-Son « Thought Catalog

This man tattooed his 3 year old.
He forever altered the three year old child's body. Without medical reason, or consent.
For that he is going to jail.

Sadly, our society allows the same situation to happen to thousands of baby boys every day. They are having parts of their body removed, for no valid medical reason, without their consent.
Are the parents who consent to this jailed or even punished? No.
Are the hospital staff punished? Nope.
We allow it. Every day.

Just because it's what is considered normal, and it's what our fathers and their fathers have done, we allow it.

Just because it's what we've always done, doesn't make it ok.

Why is altering a child's body ok in certain circumstances and not in others?

Room by Emma Donoghue

My rating: 5 of 5 stars


I can't even put into words what I think of this book.

To say it's amazing seems to be underselling. This book is beautiful and shows strength,determination and love,in both Jack & Ma.
I could hardly bare to put the book down, and often found myself reading it out loud to my husband.I still find myself telling others about the book, and quoting it.





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Room by Emma Donoghue

My rating: 5 of 5 stars

I can't even put into words what I think of this book.

To say it's amazing seems to be underselling. This book is beautiful and shows strength,determination and love,in both Jack & Ma.
I could hardly bare to put the book down, and often found myself reading it out loud to my husband.I still find myself telling others about the book, and quoting it.

View all my reviews

"Infant formula has only been around for about 100 years, and has only been widely used for about 60. Every time a deficiency is fixed in the product, it is heralded as being 'closer than ever to breast milk'. I could take a step out of my front door and be 'closer than ever' to California. Doesn’t change the fact that I’m still thousands of miles away."


--Snagged from The Leaky Boob on FB

‘Intactivist’; anti circumcision activists want to outlaw circumcision - Health - The Imperfect Blog: "

There are bigger things to worry about? Baby boys are having parts of their body hacked off for no reason at all. baby boys are bleeding to death. Baby boys are being horribly maimed.Baby boys are having their own rights to make choices about their own bodies. If their very basic human right to choose what does or doesn’t happen to their own bodies isn’t worth worrying about, I don’t know what is. It’s not their penis intactivists are “obsessing” about, it’s their own right to choose.


Yes, i am an intactivist, and i do think it's mutilation. I am also pro choice. Most argue that you can't be both, because you should be arguing for the babies lives as much as you do for their genital integrity, but really it's about choice.
The choice to decide what happens within your body.
The choice to decide what gets cut off your body.
Does it really surprise you that someone who is pro choice when it comes to abortion, is also pro-choice when it comes to circumcision? Leave the choice up to the person who's body it is, and stop hacking off baby boys body parts.

Need to know when it's time to check on and settle your baby?
Well don't worry, there's an app for that!



Features:

• Checklist (Nappies, wind etc) that must be completed before the app can start.
• Alarm* that sounds when a wait period has completed and it's time to settle the baby.
• Automatic doubling of the wait period after each settle.
• Ability to select any of the the preset wait periods after each settle.
• History kept of the time taken to get baby to sleep.
• Customize app with baby's name and sex.

Disgusted yet?

Me too. I can't imagine leaving my baby to cry until some stupid app told me it was time to check on him/her.
I couldn't imagine leaving my infant to cry period.

And i'm not the only one:

Woman, Uncensored: Neglect-o-Matic:

"Apparently CIO isn't ridiculous enough, now cheap technology can tell you whether it's time to parent your child or not. 'No sweetie, ignore the sounds of Susie vomiting from distress... my phone hasn't beeped at me yet' Maybe they'll add features that let us know when we're allowed to feed our kids as well. Little alarms can go off if we've given them too many hugs and kisses or *god forbid* held them too long! Brilliant. Evidently we're not smart enough to actually pay attention to our offspring and our instincts, eh? Save yourself a few bucks and love your kid. If you expected a full night's sleep, you should have gotten a plant."

I couldn't have said it better.

^{(I originally saw this link posted on Cafe Mom's "the stir"  Image is also from there)}

Water-Drinking Pregnant Woman Asked to Leave Bar 15 Minutes Into her Night Out

Why? not because she was doing anything wrong, or illegal, but because she was pregnant.
She wasn’t even drinking!
The bouncer took it upon himself to tell her to leave. Many people argue he had a right.
Why? because she was pregnant?

Last time i checked being pregnant in a bar wasn’t illegal.  They argue he was worried and trying to protect the bar.
Oh, fine, but wouldn’t it be his job to protect every patron in that bar and not just the pregnant one? Then why did he only ask her to leave?
If she wasn't doing anything wrong, the.y don't have a right to ask her to leave, and there is nothing illegal with a woman being in a bar pregnant.
Hell, she can smoke & drink if she wants to (i'm not agreeing, or saying that's ok!) it isn't illegal, and that means the bouncer doesn't have a right to make her leave simply because she's pregnant.
It would be akin to asking someone to leave just because they're gay, straight, white, black, purple, liberal, democrat, vegan, whatever. Just because the bouncer didn't agree with a pregnant woman being in there, doesn't mean he had a right to make her leave.
It’s discrimination. He discriminated against her just because she happened to be pregnant.

"We live in a country where people feel increasingly empowered to make decisions for pregnant woman."

Randomly stumbling on stumbleupon,i came across this:
http://parents.berkeley.edu/jokes/important.html

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